“If men’s kindnesses toward women were really only kindnesses, a man would be pleased if another man or woman offered these kindnesses to him. He would be pleased if another man or woman lit his cigarette or pulled out his chair for him. He would be pleased to derive his income, prestige, power and even his identity from his partner. He would take pride in another man’s or woman’s offer to walk him to his car at night. But in fact, “one of the very nasty things that can happen to a man is his being treated or seen as a woman, or womanlike.”—(Frye 1983, p. 136).”
“The reality is that fat people are often supported in hating their bodies, in starving themselves, in engaging in unsafe exercise, and in seeking out weight loss by any means necessary. A thin person who does these things is considered mentally ill. A fat person who does these things is redeemed by them. This is why our culture has no concept of a fat person who also has an eating disorder. If you’re fat, it’s not an eating disorder — it’s a lifestyle change.”—
I just want to nail this to every stable surface I can find. I cannot count the amount of times that I’ve seen fat folks being encouraged, cajoled, and even forced into behaviors that would be recognized as disordered eating/exercising patterns in thin folks.
Pretty much everything that’s done on shows like The Biggest Loser would be called out as pro-ana/pro-orthorexia in a thin person. Exercising past the point that it hurts, to the point where you’re throwing up, even injuring yourself? Berating yourself because you didn’t lose ENOUGH weight this week? Constantly talking about how fat is weakness and thinness will make everything better, about how you can’t stand to be your current weight anymore? Emphasis on weight as a sign of how much control, strength, and worth you have? Viewing food as bad, as a temptation to sin? Constant sharing and talking about tips on how to minimize food intake, how to lose weight?
That sounds exactly like every pro-ana/pro-mia blog I’ve ever seen. It’s also what fat people are told we need to be doing to ourselves until we’re thin.
So if we have to show women what the baby looks like in their womb and tell them how the process works before allowing them to get an abortion, does that mean we should teach our soldiers about the culture of the lands we’re invading, and explain to them that the people we want them to kill have families and feel pain, just like Americans?
If white American feminist theory need not deal with the differences between us, and the resulting difference in our oppressions, then how do you deal with the fact that the women who clean your houses and tend your children while you attend conferences on feminist theory are, for the most part, poor women and women of Color?
omg please don't take this as hate i love you forever, but why do you think stannis would be a fit king? he seems too weak and easily manipulated, at least that's how he seems in the tv series (i haven't read the books so...)
So I’m going to blame this, a thousand percent, on D&D and their crap writing. If you haven’t read the books, you’ll have to take my word for it, but Stannis is in no way weak or easily manipulated. It makes me actually pretty sad that the show has given you that impression, because he’s by far one of the strongest characters, from the standpoint of holding up justice no matter the cost. Actual book quote:
"Stannis is pure iron, black and hard and strong, yes, but brittle, the way iron gets. He’ll break before he bends."
And I think that pretty perfectly explains what Stannis is about. Davos saved his life at the siege of Storms End (and the lives of many more) but, because he had once committed crimes as a smuggler, he took four of his fingers. I think that example sums up what Stannis is about. As the series goes on, some of his ideas of justice have to bend a bit (I’m looking at you Jon Snow, potential heir to Winterfell), but overall Stannis remains who he is. He knows that it his rightful duty to be king, and he will do what he must in order to achieve that.
Melisandre does influence him, and sometimes manipulate him, sure, but no where near the extent to which she does in the show. In the scene in the last episode, they burned Florent (Selyse’s brother) and other important political figures at Dragonstone because they are infidels. In the books, Axel Florent is burned because he sent a negotiation letter to Joffrey, to try and make peace between them. Stannis, of course, will never make peace - HE’LL BREAK BEFORE HE BENDS - so what Florent has done is treason, and needs to be punished. Now THAT’S in character, and is not simply done because Melisandre pushed him into it. She’s certainly important to the decisions he makes (especially because her red god magic does visibly work sometimes), but he also listens to Davos, and he also sometimes just does what he thinks is right.
Reasons why Stannis would be a bomb ass king: He is the only king in Westeros to respond to Castle Black’s plea for help. This is HUGE. The others is probably the biggest threat that the kingdoms are facing right now, and Stannis is the only one who seems to care. He understands that ruling isn’t about glory or a throne or any of that other crap, but about straight up protecting the people who can’t protect themselves. More than that, he believes strongly in justice and, even though that would make for some pretty harsh leadership, it would be fair and honest. There would be none of this decadent overspending that you get under Robert and the Lannisters. Of the contenders for the Iron Throne right now, he’d definitely do the best at ruling - not to mention, that he is in fact the rightful king.